Sometimes it feels as if the world is stacked against us and we can’t help but doubt our abilities. As soon as something goes wrong in our lives, as humans, we tend to fall into thinking “traps” or negative thinking patterns. These internal thinking patterns can keep us from being our most confident, productive, and successful self. Not only do they prevent us from achieving our goals, but they can take a serious toll on our mental health. I'm here to tell you that yes, you can. You need to hear this one.
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Sometimes it feels as if the world is stacked against us and we can’t help but doubt our abilities. As soon as something goes wrong in our lives, as humans, we tend to fall into thinking “traps” or negative thinking patterns. These internal thinking patterns can keep us from being our most confident, productive, and successful self. Not only do they prevent us from achieving our goals, but they can take a serious toll on our mental health. I'm here to tell you that yes, you can. You need to hear this one.
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What's up everybody and thank you for listening to Mastering the Mindset. My name is Darius Dutch and I'm an actor, hip hop artist and fitness and life coach. I'm here to personally help you train and improve your mindset so that you can 1. Become the best version of yourself mentally and 2. Gain focus and motivation to be able to take action and achieve the success in life that you want and deserve. Before we get started, please like and subscribe to my channel and at the end of this episode, if you liked it, please share it with a friend or a loved one or someone who would benefit from hearing this message. I'm so glad you're here and I'm ready to go on this journey with you, and that journey begins now. Alright, and welcome back to another podcast episode. Thank you so much for tuning in. Just a reminder this podcast is available on all podcast platforms, including on YouTube, so if you want to watch along on YouTube, I'll put the link in the description.
Speaker 1:Like I said a few times now, this is one of the things I have been procrastinating on for way too long. I had gotten into comfort zone by not being on camera, but I want to grow this thing and make it the best it possibly can be, and having it recorded on camera and having on YouTube is the move I have to make. So here I am, stepping outside my comfort zone, and not just for me, but for you too. I preach stepping outside your comfort zone a lot on here, and I have been in my own life. But because you don't live with me or see me every day, you have no way of knowing. And now you do, and I can't wait to look back at this moment down the road and see how much better I got at this, and that'll be proof to myself first, but also to you, that stepping outside your comfort zone works and it helps you grow. It helps you grow, alright.
Speaker 1:So today we're going to be talking about how to just go, to just take the damn action that needs to be taken. We all know how easy it is to procrastinate on something, to be overwhelmed by something, and how much work is going to take, or how easy it is to feel lost and this stops us from taking action. But we got dreams and we have goals, so not taking action is literally holding us back, even when we know we should be taking that action. Alright, now this is going to be a real straight to the point episode, and one that we all need to hear. So let's get to it and I've talked about this concept on here a lot before about living your life in headlights, and what I mean by this is taking the actions you need to take to have success and breaking it down.
Speaker 1:So we have to get stuff done right. We have to, and the way to get it done is to stop worrying and projecting yourself in the future and thinking about all the things you have to do way down the road, because on this journey, you're doing exactly that. You're going down this road and trying to do all the things you have to do to achieve whatever that thing is that you're striving for. And when you start thinking about your goals 10 years from now, it's a long ways away, and what happens is, once you start thinking about your goals that far away, it starts to get demotivating. Why? Because it feels so far away. So if you want to be making, let's say, $500,000 in 10 years and right now you have 15 employees working for you and you only have 8,000 in your bank account and you don't even have a company yet, that can seem really big and almost impossible to accomplish. If you're thinking that far ahead, that's easily demotivating, but if you work it backwards and you live your life in headlights like I was playing just a second, it'd be so beneficial for you because you won't have paralysis by analysis.
Speaker 1:Way too often we overthink everything, all the things that we have to do, how we got to get this done and get that done and complete this thing, when in reality the first thing we have to do is only the next thing in front of us. The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step, that first step. If you're sitting there and you're overthinking and it feels overwhelming, and now you don't even know where to begin, it could be because you're thinking about mile 1000 when you should be thinking about step one. When you take one step, then you can think about taking the next step. If you're only at step one, why on earth would you be worried about mile 300 or mile 159 when you're only on step two? And why do we do this to ourselves, to put that pressure on ourselves?
Speaker 1:When we do this, this actually holds us back from taking action and we end up doing nothing, even if you went to this expensive restaurant and you ordered something pretty pricey from the menu, let's say a steak, an expensive steak, an expensive ribeye and you get the steak and they bring it out to you and it looks good. Then you put your fork down and you grab the steak with your hands and you shove the whole thing in your mouth all at once. Would you ever do that? No, you would never do that, no matter how badly you want to eat that steak and accomplish that task of eating that steak. That's what people think they need to be doing in order to get success. You don't need to feel all that anxiety of eating that big old steak all at once because that ain't how you supposed to do it. You take small bites at a time. That's how you have to live your life One bite at a time. Don't try and shove the whole steak in your face. How many bites will it take? More than likely, we don't know the answer to that, but it can't get all eaten in one bite. Again, we wouldn't eat that expensive steak like that.
Speaker 1:We don't get anxiety about eating our food, about eating a meal. Then why do we do this without our goals? There's two things we do when we go after a goal and we get caught up with not taking action. We one we tend to make it way bigger than what it actually is. We make it have to be so big. We make it have to be this big mountain we have to climb. We think it's going to be harder than what it actually is, when in reality, if we just work at it and chip away at it and chip away at all the steps, eventually it will get done. The second thing we do because we've never done it before, we tend to look into the past and that past failures or negative outcomes and we get that feeling of damn, I don't know if I can actually do this. Once you get that feeling, you better believe it's going to hold you back. We one we make things bigger than what they truly are. And two, we've never done it before, so we already think we can't do it.
Speaker 1:Living your life in headlights let's talk about it. I live in St Paul and let's say I want to go on a road trip to the Grand Canyon and that's definitely a long drive from here. When I got in my car, I'm not going to see the Grand Canyon. I just Googled how far the Grand Canyon is for me and it says it's 1,575 miles from here, about a 24 hour drive. So, no, I cannot see the Grand Canyon from here in St Paul in my car. And if you were about to go on this same trip, you wouldn't get in your car and get anxious because you can't see the destination.
Speaker 1:No, you will turn on your GPS, we turn on our headlights, we see the next 100 yards in front of us and we drive. We drive those 100 yards and what happens when you keep driving? You see the next 100 yards, then the next 100 yards and then the next, and that's exactly what it's going to be like. Excuse me, that's exactly what is going to be like going after your goals. You can't see what my 572 is going to look like from where you are right now. All you can see is what's in your headlights and that's it. We should approach our goals the same way, only focusing on what's right in front of us, the things we can see, the things we can control today, not next month, not the things we have to do after we complete that next step, after step 7, no, this step, that complete trip, is not the most important thing. The most important thing is that you get moving, that you start heading in the right direction, that you use that GPS and take it turn by turn, mile by mile, highway by highway, and eventually you're going to get there. Eventually, you will arrive at your destination.
Speaker 1:What do you need to get done today to get you closer to your goal? That's it. That's it, life for me. For example, I literally did this a few weeks ago I'm planning and trying to schedule some music videos and I was just thinking of all the steps it take and how many people I have to get availability from, which is only about four, six people maybe, but still trying to get people's Scalpes together is hard. And I'm thinking about trying to schedule a photo shoot for cover art and the timing of when I want to Officially announce the song and promoting it and making the visuals, and how much more Work I have to do on the actual track to get a sounding professional, as professional as possible, because I'm mixing it myself and I noticed myself getting caught up in all the things I need to do and I had to check myself like I dodge. What do you need to do next? What's the first thing you have to do? And so I did that. I reached out to my guy who shoots the videos, as well as the person who has the location I want to use. I can I get a video done without getting that figured out first, right now, without those two? So I did that.
Speaker 1:That's what I did, the first step, and if you find yourself in this position, you have to do what's most important. Next, you have to have that what I call ready aim fire mentality ready, aim fire. One of the most Important things that will make you successful is when you find yourself overthinking. You got to say effort. You got to say effort and just take the action. Just fire. You already ready, because you know what you want to do. You know what that is. So just fire and aim. After you fire, take the action and recalibrate what you have to recalibrate and fire again, and that's it.
Speaker 1:You can't focus too much into the future, right? Too many people start a plan, right, they sit in a plan and then we plan on planning and then, while we're planning, we plan more stuff in the future Instead of just jumping in the water. Which one is better? Easing into the pool or just jumping in? You afraid it's gonna be cold? Well, it's gonna feel cold for a long time if you ease all the way in instead of just jumping and getting it over with. So jump already, because a lot of times you end up not taking action at all.
Speaker 1:You ready to work out right, to start your workout fitness goal in your journey? Don't say, well, you know what I need to go buy some gym shoes and gym clothes and oh, yeah, let me look up the right diet I should be on and oh, let me figure out which gym I want to join because that's important, right, and what happens is people do all this research and planning instead of getting up and going to the gym, instead of going full run, instead of doing some push-ups, instead of doing some jumping jacks, and all that planning is not productive. That's not being productive, that's just being busy. Don't get caught up thinking that your busy work is productive. Planning and brainstorming and prepping yes, it is important, but it ain't actually moving you closer to your goals. If you haven't taken any actionable items, any actions that's going to move the needle forward, then you just being busy. You can plan for a year straight and never actually get close to achieving any of those goals. What is it that you can do today that's gonna get you closer if you ain't taking at least one Needle-moving action today, you are tricking yourself into thinking you're being productive. So what is it that you have been putting off that you need to do? What's that thing you've been planning and are getting ready to do? What's that thing that you're waiting for the right moment to do? Right?
Speaker 1:One of the most common traits with successful people is they just go, they take the action and they understand that they're gonna mess up and make mistakes along the way, and that's fine. You're supposed to mess up. Are you not taking action because you're afraid to make a mistake? Is that you? Let me ask you a question who are you to never have made a mistake? Who are you, for real, everybody makes mistakes. Who are you to think that you have to be perfect right, because that's just not realistic.
Speaker 1:A lot of times you can't figure out what you're supposed to do until you figure out what you're not supposed to do. You have to understand that you ain't going to be able to see the path all the way from your house to the Grand Canyon. You won't be able to see that far, but what you can see, you can see your DPS, which is your data plan, your goals and all the steps and checklists that you have to check off along the way, the things you have to check off every day along the way to get you to your goal. All you can see is what's in your headlights and that's what you focus on. Will they be detours? Yes. Will they be roadblocks? Yes, would you have to pull over because you ran out of gas? Hell yeah, you can't get there on one tank. Sometimes you run out of gas, sometimes you get burnt out, sometimes you have setbacks, but you pull over, you get that rest you need and you get back on the road and you turn on your DPS and focus on what's in your headlights.
Speaker 1:Another thing you don't do is you don't look at your past mistakes, at your past failures, and use that as validation as to why this won't work or why this is too hard, because you can't drive forward looking in the rearview mirror and there's a reason why the rearview mirror is way smaller than the windshield. You ain't meant to drive forward looking backwards, right? So moving forward, let's get it. Whatever that thing is, you've been procrastinating on, you've been waiting for the right moment, for you've been planning and planning and planning. Take action today. The longer you don't take action, the longer it's going to take you to arrive. So set your DPS, turn on those headlights and start moving. So that's what I got for you today.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much for being here and tuning in. Like I always say, please share this podcast. I am trying to grow it as much as possible and by you sharing it that really helps me out for visibility purposes. Also, this is a donation driven podcast and your donations help me keep this thing going. So I would love if you can donate. Like I said, there are links in the description of how to donate, and I'll see you next time. Let's ride out.
Speaker 1:You know it's easy to figure out that you don't always win, but, like they say, life is 90 to 10. 10% of what happens to you. The other 90%, I've given me limits. I got the juice. I hit the booth. I tell the truth, I talk about me, what I've been through. Then I got hot. I got the flu. I could be a Korean at the front Because I'm making moves. Yeah, I got the moves. I do it so smooth. They know I keep it lit like I'm in the fuse. Now she want to hang like she made a news. I pray to God. They all see me. When I made the news was only SPN Fending, so cool. No, I ain't flexing. That's not what I do. I can't get a blessing. Like I said, I chew Because life gave me limits. Now I got the juice. Watch my shoes, these brand new. They want to walk on my steps, but these ain't the shoes. Wait, let me change my shoes Because, like I said, these new Hold up. Wait when I hang with us. But I lay some up like we bout to hoop. We all take three Hope you can shoot, and I don't keep up. Not without that gossip. I just sit by my T-Cup Like I got the flu, because life gave me limits.
Speaker 1:Hey, me and my feelings. What did I do wrong? What did I not do? I look in the mirror. I'm feeling so different, like what's going on. Is that really you? I don't want attention, I want to be sipping, I want to be numb. I don't want to feel it, I don't want to hear it, don't want to go back and forth, don't want to play tennis.
Speaker 1:Life gave me limits. I got the juice. I ain't tripping, I stuck to the strip and I stuck to the truth. I stuck to my word and held it all together. I guess I'm a gloom. Whatever, don't kill you, only make it strong. Well, guess I'm a proof, cause I'm still livin'. I want a feeling.
Speaker 1:Life gave me limits. Look, I got the juice. Thought I was through. I was so blue. I took a leap of faith with no power shoot. God gave me wings. That's when I flew. I feel fresh about the rapper, feeling brand new. If you only knew what I've been through. Don't ever stop riding, bro. Hope you never do, cause when you suck I'm in love. You will love the view, cause life gave me limits. Now I got the juice. What's in that bad mood? Still a good dude. I needed doors to open from it. They wouldn't move. Got my foot in the door Don't mean to intrude Cause life gave me limits. Life gave me limits. Now I got the juice. I hit the booth and I tell the truth. I talk about me, what I've been through, and I got a hat Like I got the flu.