The typical approach to self-improvement is to set a large goal, then try to take big leaps in order to accomplish the goal in as little time as possible. While this may sound good in theory, it often ends in burnout, frustration, and failure. There is power in committing to consistent incremental improvement. Over time the outcome will bring you further along than trying to get in all done at once. Let's dive in
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The typical approach to self-improvement is to set a large goal, then try to take big leaps in order to accomplish the goal in as little time as possible. While this may sound good in theory, it often ends in burnout, frustration, and failure. There is power in committing to consistent incremental improvement. Over time the outcome will bring you further along than trying to get in all done at once. Let's dive in
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What's up everybody and thank you for listening to Mastering the Mindset. My name is Darius Dutch and I'm an actor, hip hop artist and fitness and life coach. I'm here to personally help you train and improve your mindset so that you can, one, become the best version of yourself mentally and, two, gain focus and motivation to be able to take action and achieve the success in life that you want and deserve. Before we get started, please like and subscribe to my channel at the end of this episode. If you liked it, please share it with a friend or a loved one or someone who will benefit from hearing this message. I'm so glad you're here and I'm ready to go on this journey with you, and that journey begins now. Alright, and welcome back to another episode. Thank you for listening in or watching. This podcast is available on all platforms. That includes Apple Podcasts, spotify and Amazon Music, and it's also on YouTube. If you want to watch with me, go to the link in the description or you can type it in on YouTube. You type in Mastering the Mindset with Darius Dutch and, unfortunately, you have to type the whole thing in, the whole thing out, because I'm very new to YouTube and I don't have a big recognition yet. So you got to type it all out. So let's go ahead and get into it. I'm excited to give you all this one today.
Speaker 1:Let's talk about the secret to getting better every day. So life is a journey. We all know that for the most part. And you decided. You decided well, hopefully you have. You decided to take this path of self development. You decided that you know what I'm going to work on myself. You decided that you're going to take action. You're going to get better and if you've been listening to me, you know that I say this all the time but you have to take action daily.
Speaker 1:It's not a thing you can just do sometimes. You know, yeah, you could do it just sometimes, but I promise you it won't be as effective. This has to be a lifestyle, just like. If you want to lose weight and change your body, sure you could go on a diet and you can start working out, but if you don't change your lifestyle and you keep all your bad habits and you don't be consistent with what you eat and go into the gym, it's going to be damn near impossible to change your body. It has to be a lifestyle change, self improvement in yourself, in your mind, in your relationships, in your career, in your business, in your joy and happiness and peace all of it. It needs to be a lifestyle for you and it needs to be about you getting better every single day. Unfortunately, for most people, they get on a self development journey for a week, a month, two months and they say I don't see a difference. Well, yeah, it's only been two months. This takes time. You have to be working on yourself for several months before you truly start seeing a difference, and you have to do it for years to truly see a big change, right before those big changes start to set out, before those big changes start to happen to ones that you set out to see. But how can you just get better every day, even if it's only one percent? Actually, 1% will be a good thing why?
Speaker 1:Well, your current circumstances of your life right now. They are the lagging results of your habits. Your current circumstances are the lagging results of your habits, your behaviors, the things you've continued to do in the past. If you look at your life right now and you love your life, well, that means that your actions, the actions you took in the past, were in alignment with the life you would love in the future. If you look at your life right now and you hate it, well, that means that you yes, you took actions, or took a lack of actions that led you to this life right here, right now. Now you can say but okay, some things that happened to me were just not my fault, and that's true. Stuff happens right. Stuff happens that you just don't have control over. But that don't mean that you can't take ownership of what you do after that. And, if we're being honest, a lot of times people can use what happened to them in the past as a crutch. They allow it to make them be the victim. They let it keep them from doing something about it. Right, and that's a whole other episode. But my point is the results of your life and your actions. They don't come right away. Where you are right now, it was is a result of actions you took six months ago, a year ago, two years, five. And where you are right now you chose to be here, consciously or subconsciously, based on decisions you made in the past.
Speaker 1:And this is why trying to make a change can be disappointing. It can be depressing because you don't see the results immediately. Like I say all the time. You don't plant a tree and immediately expect to get shade. You don't go to the gym and leave with a six pack. You don't expect that. Same thing in life. You don't get the results right away. Now, if you plant that tree which I've never done so, I have no idea how long it take to get big enough to have shade, to be a shade tree, but it takes years. You can go to the gym and have a six pack in eight months, a year, right. Taking the time, taking the right actions over time, will bring change, but it don't happen immediately. Same thing with your relationships, your business, whatever it is you're working towards this podcast for. For, for example, I'm not starting on my journey of getting better in front of the camera and expecting to be great at this right away. No, I got to put in some time on this thing, right. Your actions won't turn into benefits until six months down the road, a year down the road, longer.
Speaker 1:And here's the secret your habits. They come from the story you're telling yourself about yourself. So if you want to change your life, you want to see progress down the road, you have to take a step back and think okay. What am I telling myself? What is the story I'm telling myself? What's the narrative? I keep telling myself I'm lazy, I procrastinate. That ain't going to help you create the life you want. Obesity runs in my family. I can't change that. That ain't going to help you create the life you want, to help you build the body you want. I don't have all the things I need in order to get started and take that first step. That ain't going to help you create the life you want.
Speaker 1:It comes to your identity. It comes down to your identity. What are you telling yourself about yourself? And that's what your actions are gonna reflect. Right? Your habits won't have a choice but to be in alignment with what you believe about yourself. If you think you're overweight because your family is that way and that's just how it always has been, why would you ever work out? Why would you eat healthy, right? So the first thing we gotta do if we want our lives to change is to recognize the story we tell ourselves, recognize that story and change that story, like the example of the two twins who had an alcoholic father One twin. He went on a life and became an alcoholic and he was asked so why are you an alcoholic? And he says I'm an alcoholic because my father is an alcoholic. The other twin, he, went on and became a CEO and didn't drink at all. And he was asked why didn't you become an alcoholic? He says because my father is an alcoholic. The story and the narrative we tell ourselves matters. True behavior change is change in your identity. All of your actions stem from what you think of yourself.
Speaker 1:You don't like where your bank account is, where it's at. Well, what are you telling yourself about you and money? Are you telling yourself that you've always been bad at budgeting and keeping up with your finances? You don't like where your business is at. Are you telling yourself that you have all these things working against you, that it's too hard, that you don't have time to work on it? You don't like where your relationship is at. What are you telling yourself about your spouse or your partner, about your children? That should be the first question we ask ourselves around areas in our life that we don't like.
Speaker 1:If you decide to start waking up early and taking time for yourself and time to work on the things that you have to work on in order to grow in whatever area you want to grow in. That's going to be in line with the kind of person who you eventually want to be. If you decide to sleep in and hit the snooze button five times in a row, then you're taking actions and in line with the kind of person who doesn't do the things that will help them get to being the person they want to become, being the person who wants to change. Same thing with money and the gym, your relationships, your business, your hobbies, your car. If you don't take the time and the actions that align with those things being where you want them to be and looking how you want them to look in the future, then they will be how they always have been.
Speaker 1:One day, during the pandemic, I decided that I was going to be the person who works on themselves mentally mentally and physically, because that was getting close to really being a dark time for me and we all went through it mentally right and, yeah, I wasn't in the best shape. I'll never forget and now that I know she's listening, she'll hear from me for the first time. But my auntie she kind of helped, sparked a change in me and it was during the pandemic and I was going to the store for her because so she didn't have to go. And as I was dropping the stuff off, she looked at me and she said you've been getting away. And I was like oh, oh, no, no, no, don't do it. And if you know me, you know I always have been in shape. I've always been fit. I play sports my entire life, I still do. I play football through college at St Cloud State, always been in shape and fit. And this was a time that I was starting to see the weight in my face right, and I think that's where she saw it and it was like the straw that broke the camel's back for me Because, like I said, I was already in a low place mentally and it was right around the time I stumbled across self development and a combination of all that helped me to make a choice to change, and I did.
Speaker 1:The actions I started to take started to be in alignment with the person I wanted to be and fast forward. I put in a hell of a lot of work. I started my own fitness program virtually, where I recorded videos and exercises for people to do at home, eventually started this podcast, really focused on my music and put out some dope music projects that got me noticed and fast forward. Now I perform my music for Juneteenth up in St Cloud, a paid gig that I'll do every year, and I've been featured in news articles because of what I'm doing. The recognition I've been getting over the years has been amazing, especially when it comes to my peers, and I'm in a way better place now mentally and physically.
Speaker 1:But it started with me changing the things I was telling myself about myself. I changed from saying I'm in a bad place mentally to I'm working on myself and I'm making a change. And I kept working and working and working. Now did I build it all overnight? Hell, no, it took time, a couple years, probably, right, and please don't take this as a break. That's one of my irrational fears I have, I guess. Right, I don't want folks to think that I'm arrogant or cocky about anything I do, and I know it's irrational because people literally always tell me that I'm so humble. Anyway, I know if I can do it, you can too. I know if I can make a choice to get better at something and change the way I've talked to myself and work at it, you can too. Like I always say on here, I'm on this journey with you. This ain't this kind of podcast where I say look at me, I got the blueprint, do like I do and you'll be successful. Right, I ain't this millionaire that's pretending that they didn't have a whole lot of stuff handed to them. No, I'm literally on here doing the work with you, and I have been this whole time and again.
Speaker 1:What are the things that you're doing right now as a result of the things you are telling yourself about yourself? And look, we all mess up. Not every action we take is going to be the right action. Not every action is going to be one that gets us closer to that destination. Sometimes we're going to procrastinate. Sometimes we're going to overspend. We're gonna hit that snooze button here and there. Some days we just won't have it in us. Not all the actions we take are going to be the good ones, but how do we get to a place where the majority of them are? And when you get there, there's no way that you won't see a change. No way. But don't get caught up in thinking that you're going to see change right away If you continue to take the actions of the kind of person that you want to be, the kind of actions that you know Will get you to that destination you want to be at. There's no way you will be stopped, but it takes time. So that's what I got for you today, man.
Speaker 1:Thank you all for being here. Like I always say, if you liked this episode, please share it with somebody. I'm trying to grow as well. I'm trying to reach as many people as I can. I feel like the messages I have for you all. They resonate with me. Like I said, I'm doing the work with you. I'm seeing change in myself and I would love to see a change or for you to experience a positive change that I'm experiencing. So please share. Also, if you can make a donation, that will help me out greatly. This is a donation driven podcast and that's how I keep this thing going. So thank you so much and let's ride up.
Speaker 1:I've been thinking about money a lot lately, so I woke up this morning and let my knees hit the turf. You better thank God, you're still on this earth. You better be stacking cake like making dessert. But if I spin, I'm trying to get reimbursed and they want to show. It's a good thing I rehearsed. I'm on the wave. It's a good thing I could surf, pick up my phone to miss calls from her. I swear having the magic stick is having the gift and the curse, because I know she missed me. She wasn't. As soon as she get it from work I get sweat on my shirt. Now she can't find her skirt. She put that thing in reverse.
Speaker 1:They see me in public. I don't see much. They probably think I'm a jerk. Sometimes I'm an introvert, sometimes I want to be by myself. I hope your feelings ain't hurt. It's just what I prefer, how I do my best work and I took a time out to let my squad come first. They all like me. We all take green God feel like Steve Kerr, but that's what I want to see.
Speaker 1:I set my goals and they've been in fold and right in front of me. Can't even tell me or duplicate me, because it's only one of me. I plan for the future and learn from the past. Hopefully it make a little more cash looking in the mirror like boy god. And what have you done to me? All I've been thinking is money trees. Money don't grow on trees. I still be looking for money seeds. Put that in my dungarees. I give it a second. The way that they come to me. Watch how. You talking in front of me. You think this funny.
Speaker 1:I've been thinking about this. It's my name, thinking about this cash. You play with my and I'm on your. I'm thinking about this. Thinking about this cash. You play with my and I'm on your. Look, money.
Speaker 1:I think about money so much. It ain't healthy for me. I know this can't be healthy. I chase her like waterfalls. She sound like TLC. I'm trying to bring home the bacon. Plus. I like BLTs. I feel like money be feeling so good. It's better than TAC. So pass me that and I relax, but not for long, because I'll be back.
Speaker 1:I feel like a baker when it come to this bread, because I need that and if you ain't helping me eat, I don't need your feedback. I need some cash. Too much pride is the reason I don't ask. I'm going to take what I got and make it last, but I won't sit on my a**, won't sit here feeling bad, got all my grind to give it everything I have. I feel like more than McFly. Every time I came back, I put in an overdrive and left that blue s**t in the past and I bet now see you laugh. You bet now make me mad. Think this funny. I been thinking about this Monday Thinking about this cash you play with my animal. I've been thinking about this Monday Thinking about this cash you play with my. You play with my animal.