How many times have we known we need to take action, understood that we need to take that first step or continue to take steps and we simply just...don't..do...it? We've all been there. It comes down to us showing up for ourselves and at the same time holding ourselves accountable. It's extremely important for growth as well as hitting those goals you set out to hit. Let's talk about it!
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How many times have we known we need to take action, understood that we need to take that first step or continue to take steps and we simply just...don't..do...it? We've all been there. It comes down to us showing up for ourselves and at the same time holding ourselves accountable. It's extremely important for growth as well as hitting those goals you set out to hit. Let's talk about it!
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What's up everybody and thank you for listening to Mastering the Mindset. My name is Darius Dutch and I'm an actor, hip hop artist and fitness and life coach, and I'm here to personally help you train and improve your mindset so that you can, one, become the best version of yourself mentally and, two, gain focus and motivation to be able to take action and achieve the success in life that you want and deserve. Before we get started, please like and subscribe to my channel and, at the end of this episode, if you liked it, please share it with a friend or a loved one or someone who would benefit from hearing this message. I'm so glad you're here and I'm ready to go on this journey with you, and that journey begins now. Alright, and welcome back to another episode. Let's just dive right in.
Speaker 1:I really think this episode is one everybody can relate to, because we've all been there and done that. When it comes to this topic and I feel like I'm always repeating myself on this podcast I'm always saying stuff like we're too often we this, or too many times we that. We've all been there with this, which I think is a good thing. I'm trying to talk about things everyone can relate to and about things that we all can improve on, to better ourselves, to better our mindsets. So we've all experienced those times where we know we should be doing something or when we aren't really doing enough when it comes to things we want to achieve. We know we should be doing something or doing more, and yet we just don't do it and, as a result of this, we aren't hitting our goals. Day in, day after day, week after week, month after month. We let time go by when we really know that, deep down, we're not doing enough, that we haven't done the things that need to be done to actually make things happen. We're not holding ourselves accountable. So what happens when we do this? When we stop showing up for ourselves, we lose confidence in ourselves. So, for example, if I say I want to start an online business or I want to sell this many number of products online this month, and if you're not giving it 100% and you're not making it to work on time, you're not doing the things you know you should be doing in order to achieve that said goal. You're not going to build confidence in yourself that you can actually do it, because what we're doing by doing this, by not holding ourselves accountable. We're setting ourselves up for failure All over time.
Speaker 1:All these little failures add up when we should be doing something. Broken on our side hustle and we don't, and a month goes by and we still haven't started. Failure If we have goals at work that we want to hit, but we procrastinate on putting in that extra work and the next thing we know that goal has came and went and we didn't achieve it. Failure. Or if you want to be able to lift a certain amount of pounds by the end of the year at the gym but we didn't really push ourselves in the gym. Well, failure, and over time, all these many failures will add up and it will cause us to lose confidence in ourselves. We start to think that we're not capable or that we start to doubt ourselves, and we lose confidence when, to be honest, the truth is we're just not holding ourselves to the standard that we need to hold ourselves to.
Speaker 1:So let's go ahead and just dive right in five ways to hold yourself accountable. Number one, and it really is a simple concept, but it's act like it's a job. If you act like it's a hobby, it's going to pay off like a hobby If you're starting a business or working towards growth, or working towards getting better at something. Whatever that thing is, if you treat it like it's a hobby, you will get hybrid rewards from it. So instead, treat it like it's a job, whenever you leave your house to go work on it, or when you set time aside to work on it at home. When you plan a time for it, treat it like it's work.
Speaker 1:Let that put you into a different mindset. Think about it like this you have to be at work at eight in the morning. Well, you're going to get up a couple of hours before you have to get to work, which you should be doing. If you're not, you're going to shower, you're going to eat or work out or meditate or whatever routine you have in the morning before you actually go to work. And why do we do that? Well, we need to be ready for work, physically and mentally prepared for the work day. So why don't we use this same mindset for the things that we need to do for ourselves? Plan that time accordingly, set aside that time, take away all of those opportunities to be distracted, because if we think about it like a job at work when you're on the clock, do they want you to be on social media all day. Are they okay with you starting your day 10 to 15 minutes, 30 minutes late every day? Do they let you clock out after 10 minutes? So why not approach those things the same way for yourself, right?
Speaker 1:You have to take it serious, like it's a job, especially if it's a side hustle or business or something that you want to make you money. If you plan on working on something for five hours, hold yourself accountable like it's work and actually put in all the time you said you would do. Treat it like work. Put in that time. It leads me to my second point, which is number two protect your time. So this one could be a little tricky, and the reason why I say this is because people in your life might not understand this one at first. So when I say protect your time, what I mean is, for example, if you set time aside for whatever you're working on, especially if it's a business, but this can apply to anything. So after you set that time aside to work on it, let's say you decided to work on something every day from 10 to two and at 11, you get a phone call from your mama. She has a question and that question turns into a 45 minute conversation. Or if, at noon, your friend walks in and asks you to look at this funny video online, or if somebody asks you for a favor right in the middle of your work.
Speaker 1:If you continue to allow these kinds of distractions and breaks and concentration to happen, then you're not holding yourself to the same standard that you need to. Because, think about it, if you were at your job let's say, at the hospital, right? Your mama wouldn't call you and ask if aunt Susan called you about the blanket she made you, or your friend wouldn't come to your job and ask you for a ride to the store. No, these things wouldn't happen. Why? Because they know why you're at work. That's your priority.
Speaker 1:Protecting your time is absolutely very important, and the reason it could be tricky is because you might have to turn people down. You might have to say, hey look, I know what I'm working on is at home or I'm not actually at the job, but I need this time to focus on what I'm focusing on, because when you protect your time, people might not really take it serious at first. And a good personal example I can use is when I first started my journey creating my workout business. I made it a point every morning to get up at 6.30 in the morning and do my morning routine and work on my business. I would work on it for like four hours straight, right, and it was a lot of recording, a lot of writing up workouts, a lot of editing. My God, so much editing. And during these times if I got a call or text or email, I would have to ignore it, I would have to let it wait until I was done, because if you don't protect that time, it's way too easy to lose it, and that can be from attention span alone.
Speaker 1:Humans in general. In the past two decades, our attention span has gone way down, and you already may know the answer to this. But how long do you think the average attention span is? If you had to guess how long do you think it is and I'll give you a hint it's less than a minute. Well, like I said, it's gone down in the past two decades. It used to be only 12 seconds, now it's down to 8.25 seconds, less than nine seconds. So how important do you think it is to protect your time and not just protecting it from the things people need from you or from people in general, but from the fun stuff too, like right now.
Speaker 1:For me, it's football season and if you know me, I love to watch football. If you saw my home on Sundays, you would laugh, because I got two TVs with football on my laptop, my cell phone. I'm stupid with it, but that can be a distraction, right. So I make sure that I try and get all my work done before Sunday, because I know that distraction is strong. So, throughout the week, to be able to relax and just watch football all day after church, I'm protecting my time. So how can you make sure you're holding yourself accountable and protecting that time? That's number two.
Speaker 1:Number three is use a calendar and schedule yourself. Now, this is another simple concept in theory, but a very useful one. Are you planning your time accordingly? Are you reminding yourself why that's important? If this thing, that you're working on, this goal, this business, the side hustle, this project, if it's really important which I know it is then are you giving yourself those dates and planning your time? Do you have those deadlines in place for yourself? And not only should you be scheduling yourself and put it in your calendar. This is kind of like point one, but don't miss or fail to show up for those things in your calendar? If it was an event for work that you had to be at and it's in your calendar, ain't no way you would miss that, right. You will make sure that you were there, that you show up. So make those appointments with yourself, schedule those things, schedule that time in your calendar and stick to it.
Speaker 1:So that's number three, number four, and I kind of leave some of my next tip, which is don't be busy, be productive. I'm gonna say that one again Don't be busy, be productive. So, as you put these things in your calendar and as you're protecting your time and treating it like it's a job, you have to really understand the difference between being busy and being productive, and I talk about this a lot on here, so I won't go too far in about it. But are you taking actions? That's gonna move the needle forward. Researching is not productive. Yes, it can be necessary, but you can research for a whole month and not take a single action. Right, being prepared? Nope, still not productive. You can be prepared and buy all the things, set the room up, get the lighting right, buy the outfit, buy the equipment, but are you any closer? Yes, you more prepared to start, but you're still at step one. What actions can you take to be productive, to get you closer? What other things you can check off that list? That's number four.
Speaker 1:Number five is to be surrounded by the right people. You wanna surround yourself with those people who are gonna hold you to a higher standard, that you hold yourself to and I think this one might be the hardest, which is why I put it last but find those people who have similar goals or a similar mindset as you, those folks who you know, who know your mission and who will expect you to show up no matter what. For example, I have a friend that I met online, on Instagram, and she does fitness as well, and we kinda have this unspoken competition with each other. Whenever she sees me post something clever, or if I now have something new going on that I'm doing, she'll message me and congratulate me, and then the next day or two or a week, she'll post something super clever or unique, and we kind of let each other motivate ourselves. In a sense, we're holding ourselves accountable.
Speaker 1:But finding those people, finding those people, can be tricky because, as much as we love our family and our friends, we know that they won't always be aligned with our mindset. I can't tell you how many people I know say they wanna start working out. They know I'm doing my workout program and they wanna potentially sign up, and a lot of times it never happens. And that's not saying anything bad about them, because I know what it takes to really get in shape All the time it takes, the dedication, the effort, all the hard work and for a lot of people, that fitness lifestyle is just not for them. And that's okay. It could be potentially, over time, you can work on your mindset, of course, and change it, but right now, in this moment, a lot of folks just aren't in the same or aren't aligned in the same mindset as somebody who works out, somebody who goes to the gym, because it can be super easy to not be motivated to go to the gym if nobody around you is right. But that's just one example.
Speaker 1:Another example is are you following the Instagram accounts of other folks who are doing similar things that you wanna do? And if any of y'all follow me on social media, then you know that I'm getting really good at editing. Well, a big reason is a lot of the accounts I follow. Their content is editing tips and editing tricks Again, things that are in the line with what I'm doing, with what I'm trying to achieve. Right, I follow other podcast pages. I follow other motivational pages. Right, my timeline has so many of the same things that I'm doing, that I'm striving to do. So I see it all the time on my timeline and it motivates me, it sparks creativity.
Speaker 1:My point is there is more than one way to surround yourself with the right people, but the people who are in alignment with your mindset. Sometimes it has to be online, so let's do a quick recap. Five steps on how to hold yourself more accountable. One act like it's your job. Take it just as serious. Two protect your time. Hold yourself accountable to that. Three, use a calendar and schedule yourself. Four, be productive versus being busy and really understand the difference. And five, be surrounded by the right people. So that's what I got for you today, man. Thank you all for being here. Like I always say, please share, share, share this. Tag me in the postman you do. I'm trying to grow this thing and I need to help to do that. This is a donation to a podcast and I would love it if you can make a donation. Thank you so much and let's ride out.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's raining again. I got it. I got it. I'm shaking demons off me. Okay, let's get it. I hit a rain on my window pane. I feel the same, that she don't feel the same. I wanna be like me forever. I don't feel ashamed. I never change. I'll always be me. She telling me I'm stubborn. I got a big heart, though I get it from my mother and you will never find another. I'm just confident. Don't call me conceded. Hope this rain cooled me down because I get overheated.
Speaker 1:I should just take it easy. Pull one up, cause I need it, get some wings and go eat it. Put Netflix on the TV and Colin Kaepernick just got a brand new deal with Nike. Goddamn, I just bossin' with Deeders and if you ever in the jam, you got my number. Nigga, call if you need me. And that's the realest shit I ever wrote, cause I know these little skies like to get a little cloudy. It rain all day till you need a little yachting. Bet my neighbors hate the weekend cause it's a party next door. Me and my Migos bump in Kendrick Lamar. You gotta take a chance. Do that for your future.
Speaker 1:I'm bout to wake a few up. I feel like a rooster, not thinking bout karma. I was screaming fuck the world. Until the world fucked me back. I call that karma sutra. Tryna brand myself in. You wanna start a rumor? I won't even say your name, bitch nothin', but a loser. My nigga's goin' beast mode. Dope it. Then the kilo. We some fly-need grows. Black superheroes Play some trap music and you see my alter ego. I been gettin' ratchet ever since I was a ninjo Take 3, be the lingo. I don't trust too many people. You never see the real me. That's only if we close. I know you want me to open up and let you in, but I been lookin' through this people. Thank God for people.
Speaker 1:It's a rainy day. I'm stacking up like Savin' for a rainy day. I eat the cake like anime, watch for the fake like anime. I never fabricate nothin'. I put my life in the music. So if I pass away, play my album after wake and I knew one day that I have to rain and, with my back against the ropes, I turn in the cash to declare Don't like what I have to say.
Speaker 1:You can't go masturbate. You better acclimate to rain. I can validate your pain, as if I could hit a rain. I hit a rain. I hit a rain. I hit a rain. I'm in my zone right now, said I'm in my zone right now. I'm in my zone, yeah, shaking demons off me. Get off me. Uh, come on, let's get it. Rainbow rainbow it's days like this. I just wanna thank God that I ain't y'all, cause y'all don't know how to deal with no rainbow, with no rainbow, cause I hit a rain. Rainbow rainbow it's days like this. I just wanna thank God that I ain't y'all, cause y'all don't know how to deal with no rainbow, with no rainbow, cause I hit a rain. No-transcript.