Many of us are facing challenges that can be stressful, overwhelming and/or cause strong emotions inside of us. Unfortunately this is a common part of human life. It is a survival mechanism that prepares us to respond to threats and unsafe situations. A lot of times stress comes from us projecting future moments to the present. We feel the anxiety of things to come. It's important to remember that you can only focus on what's here right in front of you. You can't live in the future. Let's talk about different types of stress and how to cope. This is an important one!
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Many of us are facing challenges that can be stressful, overwhelming and/or cause strong emotions inside of us. Unfortunately this is a common part of human life. It is a survival mechanism that prepares us to respond to threats and unsafe situations. A lot of times stress comes from us projecting future moments to the present. We feel the anxiety of things to come. It's important to remember that you can only focus on what's here right in front of you. You can't live in the future. Let's talk about different types of stress and how to cope. This is an important one!
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What's up everybody and thank you for listening to Mastering the Mindset. My name is Darius Dutch and I'm an actor, hip hop artist and fitness and life coach. I'm here to personally help you train and improve your mindset so that you can 1. Become the best version of yourself mentally and 2. Gain focus and motivation to be able to take action and achieve the success in life that you want and deserve. Before we get started, please like and subscribe to my channel. At the end of this episode, if you liked it, please share it with a friend or a loved one or someone who would benefit from hearing this message. I'm so glad you're here and I'm ready to go on this journey with you, and that journey begins now. Alright and welcome back to another episode. I'm so glad you tuned in for this one. Before we get started, please like and subscribe. Especially if you're watching on YouTube, please subscribe. And if you're listening on a podcast, I have a big favor to ask you, and that is to leave a review. I will truly appreciate that. The more reviews I get, the more my podcast can be visible to other platforms, to other people, I'm sorry. So please, please, please, leave me a review and again, that will be greatly appreciated. And if you're watching on YouTube and you'd rather listen to it as a podcast, there's a link in the description to do that. You can either listen to it right there on the podcast website or you can choose which podcast platform you want to listen on. The links are all there for you. And if you're listening via podcasts right now and you want to watch it on YouTube or go subscribe for me on YouTube, please subscribe. There's a link in the podcast, in the description, to do as well. Again, thank you.
Speaker 1:So let's get to it. Today we're going to be talking about stress, all about stress, how stress works in your life, what it is, how to handle your stress and manage it, and also the different types of stress. A lot of times we don't realize or even know that there are different types of stress, and knowing these three different types of stress, we can be better equipped to understand them and manage them. So the first one is kind of a new stress. The next one is called hypostress, and then there's also hyper stress and we're going to dive in and talk about all three and we hear words like anxiety and depression and stress, and sometimes we kind of lump them together or put them together. People throw those words around, it seemed like sometimes. So first let's talk about the actual definition of stress.
Speaker 1:Stress is a physiological and psychological response to things and situations that upset our personal balance in some sort of way Our personal balance. When you get out of balance, stress happens, and believe it or not, stress doesn't always have to be bad. Stress can be good and the reason why we have stress is because it's natural to the human body. But, of course, when it starts to get out of control or we experience it for too long, for long periods of time, then it becomes chronic. And when we talk about the different types of stress, you will see how stress can be a good thing, how it's needed.
Speaker 1:But if you're waking up and you feel stress from the time you wake up to the time you go to bed, then that is chronic stress and if you are experiencing that, you really should go to a doctor. Please go to a doctor. This episode is not going to help that. I don't have the degree to help you with that, but if you feel like you stress a lot, if you have a lot of stress not chronic stress, but if you feel like you stress a lot. First, we have to understand that it comes from you. It comes from our own selves, from our mindset, from the way we look at our lives and our circumstances, whatever they may be. And if you feel like you are too stressed, there has to be some ownership in that. You got to say, okay, this has gotten out of control. I'm the one who let it get out of control, and I need to be the one to get it back in control.
Speaker 1:Because when we're faced with something, some challenge or some threat, our bodies prepare to respond, and that could be physical or mental or emotional. Our bodies and our brains tells us, hey, it's time to do something about this. Stress is in the brain. Stress is also in the body. Stress, of course, can be triggered by external circumstances. If you're laying in bed in the middle of the night and you hear somebody break in, your brain is going to send distress signals to your brain and then you're either going to go into fight, flight or freeze Whatever you need to survive. There's going to be some kind of response. Then your heart rate will increase, your muscles will tighten, your blood pressure rises so that your blood can get to different parts of your body faster, your senses get sharper. There's an increase in strength and stamina. Your brain also processes a lot quicker. Things slow down for you. In a sense, all of this is preparing you for whatever response to the stressful situation is going to be, and this example of somebody breaking in your house in the middle of the night. That's an extremely stressful situation, right? If you ask most folks what they stress about these days, most of them won't say I'm stressed because I got people breaking in my house. That ain't an everyday stress.
Speaker 1:Things about daily stresses come from our minds, not necessarily the things around us, but inside us. The way we perceive a situation can determine whether or not it's stressful. For example, my roommate don't like dogs, especially if it is a big dog. He don't mess with them, he's afraid of them. Me, I like dogs. I don't have a problem with dogs. I don't have a dog, but I will consider myself a dog person. So if the two of us are walking by a big dog, even if that dog is clearly friendly and wagging his tail, there's going to be two different levels of stress for us. Two different levels of stress based off our perception, based off our past experiences, based off of what dogs mean to us.
Speaker 1:Another example I experience at one of my day gigs. I have a job at the Science Museum of Minnesota and they have a theater program and we do short shows, usually around science, for people who come to the museum. And we used to do a show that was about physics and sports and if you know theater people, theater industry, the majority of us didn't really grow up playing sports, but I did. I love sports and there were a few elements of this show that required you to show some hand-eye coordination maybe catch a ball, hit a ball, throw a ball, throw a ball and just kind of talk about sports a little bit. Some people who have no background in sports, they would have a different stress level around that show. I had zero stress and on the other side of it some people dreaded having to do it. Same exact situation For me. I liked the show, but for other people it was stressful.
Speaker 1:Both non-serious examples, right, but both demonstrations of how stress can work, how it can be caused by our own brain. And stress can manifest in different ways. Through excitement, it can manifest through anxiety, through depression, feeling of overwhelm and frustration. But stress is a mechanism that is necessary for the human body. We need it to survive. But the kind in our minds, that's the one we can start to work towards to free ourselves from stress.
Speaker 1:So here we go, let's dive in. The first one is called Eustress, that's EU stress, that's how it's spelled and the prefix EU. This is the good kind of stress. It can actually be exciting and it's usually short-term. For example, like riding a roller coaster. I love roller coasters. Whenever I go to a theme park that I've never been to before, I want to try every one of them, especially the real fast ones. Right, that's an exciting stress. First date butterflies and feeling nervous, your excitement to tell somebody some really good news going for a long run. Right, it causes stress to your body, but you also release endorphins because you like the therapeutic part of it and you feel good after. That's EU stress. And for me, as long as I've been doing theater, I still get nervous before every show, every time, especially on open the night. Even after we didn't have rehearsals for a whole four weeks and we rehearsed six days a week, I still get nervous, but it's a good kind of stress. It's because I care, I take it serious, it keeps me on my toes.
Speaker 1:Good stress, and what this stress does is it enhances your motivation, your focus, your energy, and it can turn on parts of your brain that make you more creative. You want to have EU stress. And how do we create more good stress, more EU stress? Well, one way is to step outside your comfort zone, doing new things. Now, I've been trying to do that as much as I can lately. You feel better after you do it. You can do something challenging, push yourself, setting goals that aren't too easy. Now, I ain't saying to set goals that are unachievable, but set goals that are going to stretch you, something that's going to get you outside of what has been comfortable to you, and when you do achieve it, it's going to feel good. You're going to feel good about yourself, you. Stress can be very, very, very beneficial for us. So that's the Google.
Speaker 1:Now let's move on to the next one. The next one we're going to talk about is hypostress, and this is the stress of under stimulation, too little stimulation. And I was kind of surprised to learn about this one, because when you think about stress, you think about being too stimulated or having some kind of unwanted stimulation, but this one involves lack of stimulation, right. Not having enough challenges in your life, not having enough activities in your life, Land on a couch watching too much Netflix, and this can lead to feeling restless, being really bored.
Speaker 1:Lack of excitement in life Right, it's you doing the same thing every day you wake up, you shower, you eat, you get dressed, you take the same route to work, you do the same thing at work every day, you go home, you watch the same TV shows, you go to bed, and that, every single day, can cause hypostress. You will have a lack of excitement and stimulation in life, right. As humans, we want to be comfortable and not pushed. We need to be challenged. However, we need to grow. We can't do the same thing all the time. Don't let yourself suffer from lack of engagement because you need stimulation. You either green and growing or you're brown and dying. You either green and growing or you're brown and dying, and, unfortunately, hypostress.
Speaker 1:It can be hard to recognize, especially if you've never heard of it, like me, because it's subtle. It's from lack, right. What happens is you start to get this nagging sense of being dissatisfied with life, or restlessness, monotonousness, right, are you having these super long periods of time of inactivity when you watch Netflix for so long. Netflix check on you like, hey, you still alive, right? That causes hypostress. And hypostress causes decreasing motivation, decreasing creativity, uneasiness, lack of drive, lack of excitement, right, a general sense of unhappiness. And, on the flip side, it can lead to unhealthy ways of finding that excitement that you're lacking Drugs or drilling and seeking going out there and doing crazy things to make yourself just feel alive. So do something new, do something challenging, create a bucket list, plan a trip, get your body moving, work out, try new hobbies, challenge yourself.
Speaker 1:And the next one which we'll talk about is the one that we think of the most, actually, and that is hyper stress, too much stress, an over stimulation of stressful feelings, right? Stress that's always there, all the time, and that can be from day to day life, or things in your mind, things that are pushing you past what you can handle physically and mentally. Right, that feeling, the feeling of overwhelm, and a lot of times it can be from things that are in the future. When you ask somebody why they're stressed, it's usually not because they're stressed in this very moment. It's because they look at all the things that they have to do in the future, all the things they have on the plate and that's overwhelming. And the way this manifests itself in the physical is exhaustion, headaches, muscle tension.
Speaker 1:Psychologically, it can lead to anxiety, being irritable, depression, and again, this is the most common one, right? You have deadlines at work. You got things going on at home at the same time causing you stress. You got this bill that you have no idea how you're going to pay. You got that project that's going to take so much out of you, right? That feeling of getting pulled in a bunch of different directions and not having enough resources within yourself to be able to get it all done. And unfortunately, it's never just one thing, right, they always get stacked on top of each other, just one thing after another. And again, this ain't even external. It's not external. It's us thinking about all the things going on for us and it gets too much.
Speaker 1:And a lot of times we get caught up in thinking about all the things we have to do in the next few months instead of the things we should be doing in this moment. Because guess what, believe it or not, we can't do all the things we have to do in the next few months. In the next few moments, it is literally impossible to do all the things you have to do in the next few months, in the next few moments. Yet we put that stress on ourselves as if it's true. Does it need to be done? Yes, will it be hard? Maybe Probably yes, since it's stressing you out. But can you get it done all at once? Hail to the now, now. Now, it's not all happening at once.
Speaker 1:So manage that stress, write it out. Write out what's stressing you out. Put it on paper and work through it. That way, like I always say, you wouldn't try and solve this complex math problem all in your head. No, you will write it out, right, the things that stress you out. They are complex. Write it out so you can be able to work through it easier, so you can see it, so you can plan it, so you can delegate.
Speaker 1:Also, breathe, breath work. It literally helps calm your nervous system. Deep breaths take deep breaths then begin your plan so you can plan better. And I know that sounds cliche, but it's really not. It works. Taking deep breaths sends a message to your brain to calm down, to slow your heart rate, to slow your breathing.
Speaker 1:And, of course, another thing that helps stress is exercise. It does so much for your stress and your mental health. Every one of my workout clients they all say how surprised they are and how much better they feel mentally. Working out does amazing things for your brain and shameless plug. But I know a fitness coach that can work some magic for you. Send me an email if you're interested. Take that first step and I will meet you there, I promise. Also, sleep Sleep is a really important one. And drinking enough water, right?
Speaker 1:So when dealing with hyper stress, understand that it's usually in your head. Breathe, put it on paper, plan it out and start chipping away. Understand that you can only do one thing at a time, right? So those are the three you stress, which is the good kind of stress. Hypostress, which comes from lack of stimulation, and hyper stress, which is the most common. That is the overwhelm right Feeling of overwhelm, feeling of too much. Again, don't try and do it all at once. Don't let your brain tell you that that's even possible to do everything at once. So that's all I got for you today, man. Thank you so much for being here. Like I always say, please share this episode. If you found it helpful. Make sure you tag me in the post, also like and subscribe, and this is a donation driven podcast, so all donations are greatly appreciated. Thank you so much and let's ride out. Yeah, it's Dutch.
Speaker 1:Uh, hero and villain. I hate this feeling. I gotta make a decision. Do I save or kill them? And it won't take long. Step back as I take off. Keep up, I don't raise y'all this shit, just a cake walk. It's a S on my chest, so make me take my cape off. I don't call these women hoes. Just know I don't save y'all. Smoking on that, harvey Dent, feel like half my face gone. I changed the weather like storm. I can make a rainfall. Hero and villain are packaged there.
Speaker 1:Y'all will make me act. The real, I'm hard body and I'm flat. Acting like the man is still, but I feel like Jason Boyce. They know I came back to kill. I might wear my mask for real. Y'all might need some daffodils, but I'm gonna kill y'all.
Speaker 1:Later Posted up with my princess later I hit her with my lightsaber. She calling me daddy. I feel like the beta. She wanna see what I said. I'll be back like Terminator. I'm not hard to find. They know he is. I'm spotted with my dogs like who will it be? Let my hero Am I the villain? I'm trying to get money and for me to save it I gotta go kill it.
Speaker 1:I look in the mirror. I can't see a difference. Like, really, who is it that? Sun go down, you find me in the city. Hero and villain. Turn up. Hero and villain. I hate this feeling. It's time to let them all know I'm not Dr Juck or no moat, so you can't hide. I'm charged up like Goku. I let my dragon balls hang down to the floor and we don't wanna sidekick. Fuck. If I'm not robbing Cause I'd rather be on the on, cause we got a suicide squad and we in the Justice League of our own Boy, I'm really flying you really high, man. What kind of tree is you on, boy? You look like Swamp Thing, cause you can't leave that seaweed alone.
Speaker 1:Hero and villain. I prove it Soon as one of y'all starts snoozing, they start sleeping. I start killing. I feel like Frida Cougar and they dying just to get on my level. Bops it up like King Cougar and thank the Lord to my future wife, cause that woman will be super Hero and villain. I feel like Bruce Bannon. Control of my anger. You don't wanna see me go hulk again. You better be small with it. Like Tony Stark with it, I will dive on you. Like Aquaman, I dove in the ocean like Aquaman. Like Professor X, she can't walk again Cause I gave her this bag man. It made it go crazy. Like Carly Quinn, I feel like a hero. Am I the villain? I'm trying to get money and for me to say, but I gotta go kill it. I look in the mirror. I can't see a difference. Like, really, who is it that's a ungo down? You find me in the city. Hero and villain Turn up.