Mastering the Mindset
Mastering the Mindset
Burn to Grow: Embracing Change for Breakthroughs
Your breakthrough is waiting, but are you prepared to destroy what's holding you back to claim it? The journey to transformation requires more than wishful thinking—it demands intentional breakdown of the parts of yourself that no longer serve your growth.
Like a seed that must completely destroy itself to become a flower, we must be willing to let certain aspects of ourselves die for new growth to follow. This metaphor speaks on the fundamental truth about personal development: you can't change your life without changing yourself
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Losing myself and finding my strength, came to the conclusion that I want it all, feeling that pressure of trying to do better. I wanna reach heights, but too scared to fall, too scared to fail. You're way more scared of feeling regret. I'm not even trying. That's terrifying. I understand that. Chasing my goals are burying my clocks because it take time. I gotta go. I already know if I wanna grow, you breathe what you sow. That be the case, planting my seeds and water my base. Yeah, I made mistakes. Yeah, I know you grow in your garden, but watch for the snakes.
Speaker 1:The people that act like you crazy but trying to stay far away. They don't think it's possible. I think it's possible. That is just hate if they hate themselves because they're on the shelf.
Speaker 1:Why you create a life that you love. A life that you love, yeah, loving the fact you're improving yourself. Decided that you would not settle. Decided that you got the drive to do it. The road got bump in your foot on the pedal. You go up a level. You turn up whenever it's time for you to go. Put in that work. I know my worth. I know it ain't gonna be easy. Yeah, I know it hurt. One thing is for sure, yeah, until they put me in this earth, before I ride in that hearse, I'm chasing my goals. I'm chasing my goals. Yeah, love and affect you, improving yourself. Decided that you would not settle. Decided that you got the drive to do it, to go. Got bumping your foot in the gutter. I'm chasing my goals.
Speaker 1:All right, and welcome back to another episode. Thank y'all so much for being here. If you are watching me on youtube on youtube, what is youtube? If you're watching on youtube, go ahead, like and subscribe to my channel. If, if you're listening on a podcast platform, please go ahead and leave me a review. Also, become a supporter of the show. You can choose the amount. It can either be three, five, eight or ten dollars, and all donations are greatly appreciated and helps me get this thing going. But let's go ahead and jump in. This one is going to be a quick one, but I really like this one and I needed to hear this one myself and there's a story about me I want to tell you to kind of bring it on home. So here we go.
Speaker 1:Today, we're going to be talking about your breakthrough and, more specifically, how you can create your breakthrough, because, yeah, breakthroughs can just happen in life. The universe or God can just give you one it could just land in your lap or the universe can force you to navigate through a breakthrough where things happen in your life and you have to change. The old is no longer possible. Right, and that happens to people, it definitely happened to me or you can actually go and search for your breakthrough. You can go out and look for the opportunities and align yourself with that breakthrough, and some of this might be a little hard to hear for some people. There might be some parts of yourself that you're going to have to give up, and I think I just use this quote either last episode or before, or the one before that, but you about to get it again. So here we go.
Speaker 1:The quote is a seed has to completely destroy itself in order for it to become a flower, to completely destroy itself in order for it to become a flower. A seed has to completely destroy itself in order for it to become a flower. And it's so true If you think about it, thinking about a seed and how much potential the teeny, tiny little seed has, so much potential to become a flower or a tree, it becomes something beautiful. But in order for it to become that thing, it literally has to completely destroy everything about the way it currently is. And if you look at a person or the person you want to become that person a year from now, five years from now, a decade from now, in order to become that person, you're going to have to completely destroy certain parts of yourself, certain parts of yourself. You're going to have to destroy certain aspects of yourself. Certain aspects of yourself are going to have to be completely unrecognizable to you and to people around you.
Speaker 1:To change and become different, you literally have to change and become different. And it sounds so simple, but it's so true. But people don't seem to let that really sink in their mindsets. Some folks say you know, I want to change, I want things to be different, I want to be a different person, I want different in my life, I want to be better. And then reality hits and they realize they have to change themselves. And now, all of a sudden, it don't really seem like they want that change and we can have this fantasy of having everything we do be exactly the same. And we can have this fantasy of having everything we do be exactly the same, nothing ever being difficult, not ever having to do anything hard, not having to let any parts of ourselves go, and somehow we want to have all these things around us and about us be different by the new year, or five to 10 years. Do you see how that sounds? That ain't realistic.
Speaker 1:In order for you to have a breakthrough, usually you have to have some kind of breakdown and again it can be the universe bringing it to you, or you can go out and search for it. Your life cannot change unless you change yourself. Don't keep making the mistake of wanting your life to be different, but doing the same things you always do. If you always the same, your life will always be the same things you always do. If you're always the same, your life will always be the same. Excuse me, okay, oh, someone got my throat for a second. But yeah, if you are, if you're always the same, your life will always be the same.
Speaker 1:You have to break down certain aspects and areas of yourself. They have to completely die off and, in place of it, new aspects of yourself are going to have to completely die off and, in place of it, new aspects of yourself are going to have to either be stronger or be made, like with forest fires. Right, you see a forest fire and it just looks like all this destruction and chaos. But over time, after that forest fire is gone, there's new growth. Those seeds that were underground, that was that wasn't getting enough sunlight, all the big trees are blocking it. They grow and the forest is beautiful again. Certain types of farms right, they have prescribed burns where they burn the old crops, right.
Speaker 1:Same thing in life. Sometimes you just have to light a forest on fire on different parts of your life and say, yep, that aspect of me that likes to procrastinate, that likes to sleep in and doesn't follow through with what I said I was going to do, I need to burn that down. I need to see what new things can grow here, because your life right now is based off who you were and have been in the past. Everything you currently have in your life right now is based off who you are and who you were Two years ago, four years ago, 10, 15. If you look around you and you don't feel satisfied with where you are, it's because you you didn't take the actions and do the things you needed to do in order to have the life you want. So look around you. What you see in your life is the lagging results, the indicator of all the things you've done in the past. If you want things to be different, you have to do things different and then in the future you can look around and see all those lagging results from the actions you took, those new seeds that would have grown.
Speaker 1:And one life fact we can all agree on is better times usually come after a breakdown. Things get hard, times get rough, things get low and then you get to the bottom or you hit rock bottom and eventually you'll bounce back. Now, while you're in it, while you're at the bottom, it don't feel like things will change and we can get afraid that the hard times are going to last forever. We can't see the breakthrough and we forget that, no matter what, life is never going to be all, even ever. There will be good, there will be bad, peaks and valleys, and when you're in the valley, eventually you will be at the top again and much higher If you don't stop growing. The key is you can't stop there, because on the other side of that valley is the beautiful.
Speaker 1:For me, one of the stories I talk about a lot on here, one of the lowest moments was when I lost my car. I was driving around for years on a revoked license and I had tickets and them. Tickets ain't cheap and it definitely was a period in my life where I really needed to burn some aspects of my life down. I was irresponsible, I procrastinated, I ignored things as if it was just going to go away. And them late fees they kept piling up Again. This was for years. I'm definitely not proud of it, but it was like about nine years with over $3,000 in fines. I can probably say I'm a changed man now, but it finally caught up to me.
Speaker 1:Back then my car ended up getting towed. I was broke, I couldn't afford to get it out and if you ever got towed then you know you get charged each day. Your car sit in that tow lot and my license was revoked. So I couldn't go get it out no way without getting my license. And I couldn't get my license because I couldn't afford to pay the fines, which is one of the main reasons why I was in that predicament. If I would have just paid the fine after the first ticket years before, I would have been fine right. Anyway, I was stuck. I had to be on the bus for two years and I hated it.
Speaker 1:Life brought me that breakdown and I made the decision to change. I worked on getting those fines taken care of, found a program that was specifically designed to help folks get their license back and I saved up. I brought a beautiful car. I bought a beautiful car that I love, but I had to go through that valley. I had to burn down that part of myself in order to change.
Speaker 1:And the universe bringing you that breakdown. It can be anything, right. It can be health problems, it can be you losing your home. It can be you ending up in a career that you hate. It can be you being in a relationship you hate, losing your job, and you could just wait for these things to happen and the universe forcing you to make that change. Or you can seek out that breakdown and you can break down certain aspects of yourself for change. But, as simple as it may sound, it is so hard to do because, as humans, is natural to resist change. Change is hard. You will always resist change. Change means unknown, and so our brains. The unknown, the unknown is viewed as a threat, and the threat is irrational Right, even when we know that the change will bring better.
Speaker 1:Right, I knew I needed to do better when it came to my license, but I still did nothing about it. I could have been working on getting my stuff together, working on growth, working on getting my life and everything in order, and I wouldn't have had to wait damn near 10 years to get my license and to have a great car that I love. And I'm gonna keep it a hundred with y'all. I'm gonna keep it real. I did leave something out about that story. One of the reasons why I kept getting pulled over is because of the car I had. So I'm from the south, from louisiana, I grew up around big cars. That was my taste, and so I had a gold 1998 cadillac deville and I didn't have no rims or no tinted window, nothing like that. I did keep it clean, though couldn't tell me nothing about that car. I was, you know, proud of my little car. But, yeah, cops saw me driving. That immediately got behind me and a young black man in a Cadillac the hell was I thinking.
Speaker 1:But anyway, my point is, I knew I had to change and I didn't, and imagine how much further along I could have been, how much sooner I could have felt that high, and don't even get me started on the person I am now. Compared to the person who I was in that gold Cadillac, the life I have right now wouldn't even be possible. It wouldn't Ain't no way that version of me would have had a podcast, have a workout business, still doing theater, doing all the editing and marketing I do for my, for my music and everything, getting gigs to edit for other businesses and do music no, that would not have been possible. I had to evolve. Parts of that Dutch had to be destroyed, had to be burned down. Not all of myself. A lot of myself is still the same. A lot of myself is better now.
Speaker 1:But I had to build a new version of myself, and the fact that you're listening to me means that you are on a journey yourself, so you understand that there are parts of you that need to be destroyed. And just like I knew that I needed what I needed to do back then, I'm willing to bet everything in my bank account right now that you know some things you need to destroy too. We know and this is what growth is, this is what the self-development journey is we need to get rid of the things that have been holding us back and, at the same time, understand and expect the resistance to change. It's going to be there In order to grow into the person you want to become. You need to make room for that new growth. So call yourself out, and it has to be you.
Speaker 1:Nobody else is going to save you. Yes, you can have folks in your life that can try and hold you accountable or tell you that you have to make a change, but the only person that can actually make that change is you. So burn it down again. Don't make the mistake of wanting your life to be different without actually doing anything different. You can continue to take the same actions and get different results in life. So hopefully, this was the match you needed to light the fire that you need to set to burn that thing down.
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Speaker 1:You know, sometimes you got to remind yourself as you're climbing up to take a second and look down and see how far you came, enjoy the view and keep going. They telling me I got it. They tell me I'm the hottest. I don't even rap about money, drugs or violence. I be being honest, you know I'm still modest, but I think we the hottest and I feel like DJ Khaled Nigga, we the best, nah, really. Nigga, we the best, nah, really. You should see. This mess Last night had a party.
Speaker 1:You know that boy Mosley got it started. You know that boy Sapp was all about it. She, telling me I'm fly, got me feeling like a pilot. She kept it first class and she sat by the pilot. I can't even front here. I told her I like the spirit and dealt with my phone number. And now she be flying diamond and I'm feeling so excited because I'm gonna get it popping.
Speaker 1:They done, let me in the gutter. I'm feeling so accomplished. I'm feeling like I'm closer to my peak. Uh, feel like I'm closer to my peak, but I feel like. I feel like I'm never home until I'm gone. Feel like when I'm alone I'm in my zone and I feel like, feel like I really should pick up a phone. Sometimes I just need to be on my own. I need to call my daddy. I should call my auntie. Rip my mama. That ain't how she raised me. I work so damn hard. The competition looking lazy. I work so damn hard. The competition better chase me. Okay, let's get it started.
Speaker 1:When it come to rap, it's like playing a game of tag. I'm on this mic yelling, not it. I can't be touched. They whisper criticism can't be much. They probably jealous cause they can't keep up. Mad, cause they can't be us. I wish somebody would say that. I wish somebody would say that's whack, we'll see you next time. Like I'm closer to my peak. It ain't as easy as it look, but we gon' celebrate, pour my cup, cheers to being overlooked, to being overbooked, but won't give up cause I got close, but I ain't close enough. It's time to hold my nuts and I got coconuts.
Speaker 1:I put my feelings on the page. They already read me like an open book. I should be endorsed by my feelings, cause I wear them on my sleeve. So take a look at me and tell me what you see, cause I look in the mirror and I see a fucking tree started as a mustard seed. Oh yeah, and please excuse my long toast. I don't mean to brag, I don't mean to boast Not on Google maps, but I know I'm getting close, I'm closer to my peak. I don't mean to brag, I don't mean to boast. I don't mean to boast Not on Google Maps, but I know I'm getting close, I'm closer to my P, I'm closer to my P. Peace out you.